By Rev.Lauri Boyd, Minister, Unity of Columbia, MO
Paul McCartney wrote this song in 1968 for Julian Lennon, John Lennon’s son. Five-year-old Julian was struggling with his parents impending divorce, and Paul wrote the song to comfort him.
This song speaks to all of us, because we’ve all had difficult experiences in life. It is about trying to move through such experiences while staying open-hearted.
The song begins…
“Hey Jude don’t make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better. Remember to let her into your heart. Then you can start to make it better.”
A fundamental spiritual principle says, “We create our experience through the thoughts we hold in our heart and mind.” We may not have control over the events and circumstances that happen in our life, but we get to decide how we will think about those events and circumstances and how we will respond to them.
We can choose to feel victimized or angry. We can waste large chunks of our life trying to figure out how to change someone else, or even more futile, how to change the past.
Or, we can choose to look for the good. We can take a sad song and make it better. We can remember that we are more than the sum total of our human experiences. We are spiritual beings, having a human experience.
We have the power to choose the thoughts we hold in our mind and heart, which means we have the power to choose our experience. Much of our suffering comes, not from the events that happen to us, but from how we interpret those events in terms of our own self-worth and the worth of others. Healing comes when we remember that, at our core we are expressions of God. Our essence is whole, perfect and complete, and we can always return to that essence, no matter what we have done and no matter what has been done to us.
We are empowered to choose to use every circumstance in our life as an opportunity to learn, to grow, to express God more fully.
And how do we do that? We open our hearts to the flow of love and wisdom. Love is that pure essence of God that binds us all together. Love sees good everywhere and in everybody. It insists that all is good, and by refusing to see anything but good, it calls forth that good. Wisdom is the voice of God within us, constantly whispering the highest truth – that we are expressions of God made manifest, and so is everyone else.
Whenever we experience pain or suffering, especially in a relationship, if we can remain open to the flow of love and wisdom, there is an opportunity for learning, for healing, and for transformation.